Dads and DINKS – Grit Vs Fit

Riding hard and long (ha, phrasing…) requires a lot of fitness, and mental toughness. It’s not really a surprise to say this, and having a deficit in either category will leave you short of your goal. Yes there are definitely other factors that play a part in determining the success or failure of a rider achieving their lofty goals, but of all points, these are the 2 most important.

So it begs the question, which is more important? I’ve been chatting a lot with my mate James Raison a lot about this lately, and we have some different conclusions, which ultimately are born from our different abilities and situations in life. But this is my website, so sucked in James, I get to write the article…

Words and images by Dave Edwards.

 

LOOK AT THIS BOY!!! Fine looking rooster is my lad ;)
LOOK AT THIS BOY!!! Fine looking rooster is my lad 😉

I am a Dad. I love it. How could you not? Absolutely there are times when I would trade my 2 ratbags for a 6 pack of beer (sometimes it wouldn’t even have to be good beer), but on balance, they are truly awesome little creatures, that make my life infinitely better. They do however occupy a CRAP-TONNE of my time, which severely impacts my capacity to ride and recover.

James is a DINK (Double Income, No Kids), which means he can ride pretty much whenever he wants, he can sleep to his heart’s content, and in between any other tasks, he is free to sit on his skinny arse and do sweet, sweet F… ALL. In his words:

“When I’m done riding I recover like a boss. My diet is good. My sleep is long and regular. I drink a lot of water. You can scoff all you want but these fundamentals all add up. I live the life of a greyhound: extremely active, followed by extremely lazy. Let’s be honest, I look like one of those pointy bonebags as well. “

DINKs can sit in the cafe all they want... (Photo by Patrick Annicciarwhatever)
DINKs can sit in the cafe for as long as they want post ride… (Photo by Patrick Annicciarwhatever)

So what does this mean? It means that in order to get in some good riding, I need to ‘manage’ my sleep. And by manage, I means have less of it. So I get up at 4am and ride some before getting the team ready for the day. Or I go for a ride in the evening after dinner. Even on a weekend, rides need to be timely, to ensure I am on deck with the family as needed. James on the other hand can sleep for 10 hours if he wants, and he can ride as far as he likes on a weekend. For the same riding volume and intensity, James has a significantly greater capacity for recovery, to allow for him to be fitter and faster.

Absolutely do I believe that there is a genetic capability that differentiates people, and that James in all likelihood is a more gifted rider than I. HOWEVER, I do not accept that that means that people in a situation like mine have to limit themselves, and the goals that they wish to reach on the bike.

Matter of fact, it’s the reduced capacity for following ‘the right way’ of doing things, that means dads (and mums of course, really, any super-time poor people) have an advantage over their DINKy, time-free mates. It’s because this group is forced to find a way that can make them stronger. They have to make things fit, and that get very good at working through tough situations, when things don’t go to plan. This group starts to find ways around excuses, and becomes very resilient to situations that present high difficulty.

It’s this mental resolve that plays a more significant part in ultra-distance riding than fitness does, and this is why:

THE BEST LAID PLANS…

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We all lay plans to complete the challenges we undertake. Some intricate, some very simple, but there is always a road map of some form that we have in order to achieve our goal. Some days, and they are few and far between, that plan comes off perfectly, and we walk away like kings, proud of our gallant victory. But what of the days when the plan falls apart? You get a mechanical, you get lost, your nutrition doesn’t ‘sit right’, or everyone else is just so much faster than you?

Having a solid mental resolve is what is needed to get through these times. Seeing your plan failing, and having to take option B, C or even worse is tough to deal with, and it’s the riders with grit that pull through to finish.

WHEN THE GOING GETS TOUGH

Finished this race with a broken hand... That took some grit!
Finished this race with a broken hand… That took some grit!

Having grit is having the ability to endure great levels of suffering. It is looking adversity in the face, setting your jaw, and pushing on, regardless of the circumstances. This is what is needed to push through when your legs are failing, and all seems lost. Fitness will leave you at around this point. To a large extent, fitness becomes almost irrelevant, as your mind will start to play tricks, as it will ignore your physical capabilities. Only your mind is left in charge.

WHEN YOU GET OFF THE BIKE

So many times on this ride, I thought there was no way I'd finish, did not believe it was possible to get to this point.
So many times on this ride, I thought there was no way I’d finish, did not believe it was possible to get to this point.

You made it. Finished, good on you, legend. Sit back, and soak in the kudos, whilst knocking back several hops-based sports drinks. What is it that you are thinking about now? What are you most proud of? When you think back to the events or races that you enjoyed the most, which ones stand out? For me, it is always the ones that were the hardest. The ones that I thought that I was going to fail. Having come through the other side, when even I didn’t believe I could, that’s where the real reward lies. It’s a case of I used my legs to challenge my mind as hard as I possibly could, and though my mind tried everything it could to defeat me, eventually I won.

Ultimately, it is awesome if you can be both very fit, and have the grit you need to get through. No denying that that is the holy Nirvana of endurance. But just like fitness, gritness (which is a word…. now) is something built over time, and something to be as heavily valued as the former. It is your ability to mentally persevere that will stick in your mind for a lot longer than how fit you felt at the start line.

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Author: Dave Edwards

Exploring the mental side of endurance cycling challenges.

12 thoughts on “Dads and DINKS – Grit Vs Fit”

  1. “James in all likelihood is a more gifted rider than I”
    “James in all likelihood is a more gifted rider than I”
    “James in all likelihood is a more gifted rider than I”
    “James in all likelihood is a more gifted rider than I”
    “James in all likelihood is a more gifted rider than I”
    “James in all likelihood is a more gifted rider than I”
    “James in all likelihood is a more gifted rider than I”
    “James in all likelihood is a more gifted rider than I”

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  2. waking up at 4.30am to get three or four hours in before the little fellas wake up, then walking round the zoo/museum/park/shops/playground all day requires pretty high levels of stamina.

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  3. Thanks Dave, Family life (4 kids now) is definitely affecting my ride availability (3 was manageable) and Im trying to adjust to the sleep management component. What your article does is gives encouragement for blokes like me that if others can still fit in riding, then I can and there’s light at the end of the tunnel. Good article, well written.

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  4. I have two kids (8 and 6) so understand your situation perfectly. Weekends now consist of their sports and activities, i coach my sons footy team as well, so i am very time poor. Most of my riding is to and from work over varying routes, ergo sessions for high intensity training and a group ride early Saturday AM. Like you I wouldnt change it for the world and being late to cycling, only riding ‘properly’ for the last two years, im always playing catch up but thats part of the challenge.

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  5. Swings and Roundabouts….I was like you, 3 young kids made my riding limited to commuting and the early session before the wake up feed me hour and fun with Dad time, with grown kids now the only early session I need to do is the 4am night club pick up which is fine by me as it is Riding time straight afterwards. Now I can ride all day as long as I’m home in time to wine and dine my wife, now thats Win win win in my books.
    Best thing these days are smart trainers, parents with young kids can punch out a good solid indoor session pretending to ride Alpe D’huez or even Beach Road, keeps the fitness up for those few inbetween long rides.
    The roundabout will come around fast enough, enjoy the Ride so to speak.

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    1. Yeah I do think of that, and what it will be like when my mere presence is not a mandatory item. But thinking too much about that means I miss out on what is happening at home now, and that’s pretty special! Even if I do miss some rides, or ride at bullshit o’clock… 😉

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